Lures are ways that sexual predators get their victims to trust them and go along with them. Just like with fishing, a lure is something that will make the predator look attractive to the victim. These are some of the lures used by child sexual predators.
Affection— This is when people who want to hurt children pretend to care for the child or for the family. Often they start relationships with the mothers of children to get the mother to trust them. They will buy groceries for the family and treats for the children. The mothers often cannot believe that this person will harm their children.
Assistance or Help—Adults or older children may ask a child for directions or will ask a child to help him carry groceries into their homes. Children are trusting and want to help but should be taught that adults who ask for help should ask other adults. An adult or older child asking for help or directions should be treated with suspicion.
Bribery—Predators will give children money, toys, sweets, food, drugs or alcohol as a bribe in order to make the child feel that they owe the predator something. They may give these things in order for the child to go with them.
Authority—A person holding a high position, such as a sports coach or scout leader; or even someone pretending to be a policeman and may even be dressed like a policeman will use that to get a child to go with them in order to have control over the child.
False Emergency—A predator may approach a child and say that the parent is sick or has been in an accident, and that the child should go with them to the hospital. They may even know details about the child [names read from school bags, etc]. Children must be taught that they need to check with a responsible adult first before going with anyone—even when they say that there has been an emergency.
Fun and Games that allows touching— This is when the predator touches the child’s body too much or inappropriately and then will say, “we were playing’, or “I was just tickling him/her”. Children should know that if they feel uncomfortable about any touching they should say “stop” and that the adult or older child should listen.
Ego, Fame and Jobs—who wants to be famous? If someone comes up to your child and says they’re a photographer and that they could offer you employment in this field if you would go with them to have photographs taken. This is a common lure.
Name Recognition—A predator will seem to know the child’s name and start talking to them. Did they perhaps read the name from the child’s school or sports bag or clothing? Do not write your child’s name where it may be easily read by others. Children may feel confused about this person knowing them, and unwittingly go with them as though not to appear rude.
Threats or Fear - Predators will threaten children with violence or shame in order for them to keep quiet about what the sexual predator has done to or with the child. Children should be taught to tell trusted adults and keep telling until they’re listened to. Children should also be taught that you will believe them no matter what and that you will never be angry with them about anything they tell you.
Heroes - Predators may dress up like a hero of children and use that to get the child to go with them.
Magic and ritual—using fairies and magic rituals to scare children into not telling, for example saying that they can see through walls and will know if the child tells anyone of what happened.
Pornography - when a predator shows the child photos or DVD’s that make them feel ashamed, scared or confused. The child will feel unworthy of the love of those people who really care for them. They do this in order to groom them into becoming the predators victim.
What are Lures?